What I Learned My Freshman Year: Dating Advice

I’ll be the first to admit it: I don’t have very good taste in guys. I always go for the unemployed and unambitious. I go for the cheaters, compulsive liars, and the ones who forget your birthday. I go for the guys who most girls run away from screaming. That’s basically my type in a nutshell.

There were some pretty heart shattering moments that happened during my freshman year because of this, but I also believe that these guys are pretty great (when they’re not screwing girls over) and loved me to the best of their ability at this time in their life. I made some pretty awesome memories with these guys, and also learned some pretty important lessons.

1.      Wear a condom.

2.      If you are too shy to ask him to put on a condom, you should not be having sex with him.

3.      If you are too shy to ask him for enough foreplay or whatever else you need to finish and fully enjoy the moment, you should not be having sex with him.

4.      If he doesn’t respect you enough to bother learning your full name and your birthday, you should not be having sex with him.

5.      If he cheated before don’t be surprised if he cheats again.

6.      No guy is worth compromising any of your morals or beliefs for.

7.      There’s nothing wrong with dating multiple guys at once, as long as you haven’t agreed to be exclusive with any of them yet.

8.      There’s no shame in having sex as long as you are taking care of yourself and your partner-just be safe and respectful.

9.      There are different kinds of love and respect, just because it isn’t being shown in the way you want it to, doesn’t mean it’s not there. That being said, if it isn’t being shown in the way you want it to don’t be afraid to tell your partner, or he may just not be the guy for you.

10.  Don’t try and be friends with your ex. Hanging out with them will just make you want to get back together or remind you how annoying they really are.

11.  Sometimes hanging out with your ex can be healthy, because it will remind you how annoying they are and how lucky you are that you moved on.

The biggest thing I learned dating freshman year:

Girls date bad boys because when a bad boy hurts you, you can’t be too surprised or hurt. He’s a bad boy, so in a way you knew he was going to hurt you. When you’re with a nice boy and something happens, your entire world is turned upside down. You have lost hope that any boys are nice guys and you feel like there must be something deeply wrong with you if a nice boy would cast you aside and hurt you. When you’re with a bad boy you always win. Either he hurts you and you get the joy of being proven right, or he proves you wrong and you get the joy of being the girl who was great enough to change his bad boy ways.